Troublemaker teenager?

28 year old remembers how her school uniform made her feel like she was being judged 'troublemaker'

"When I was in Secondary School, I would always be followed around the local shops by various staff members and security.  There were also signs on the shop doors that stated 'No groups of students in school uniform. One at a time please'-probably as they could only follow one person at a time! One time I remember being in the shopping mall with 3 friends (not even in a shop!). We were asked by a security guard to move along. I asked why? He said because we were blocking the pathway, yet there was plenty of space and groups of mothers with prams who were not being asked to move. Although, this happened to me years ago I have witnessed it happen to others of a similar age ever since.  I believe we were only asked to move due to our age. The other groups of older people were not treated in the same negative way."

[This made me feel] "Extremely angry, that just because I was in a school uniform and with 3 friends I was being treated like I was a petty thief or troublemaker."

The shop staff and security guards were estimated to be between 30-50 years old. 

Too old to be a student?

Male, 23 years, tells how he was judged "too old to be a student" 

"I went to get my phone fixed at a local mobile company. When the person started fixing it he asked if I was from around here. I said yes, I am a student [at the University] and I received a reply of "your a bit old to be a student aren't you."  He seemed to base a stereotype of university with age and thought based on my appearance (without knowing my age) that I was too old."

"I felt ok, not shocked. Though this was the first time anyone ever judged my age whilst I have been studying at university. I was more surprised."

Trouble Managing Older Staff

40 year old female tells how her age was an issue for others when she was 23

"I was a young manager [aged 23 years], managing older staff.  When yearly reviews on staff  were conducted one member of the team would not accept the report score and disucssed this with the rest of the staff who then would make digs at me. The comments were I was too young too know what I was doing."

[This made me feel] "Angry as I knew the job as well as they did and had previous managerial experience."

The other staff were estimated to be around 50 years old. 

Too Old for Treatment?

Daughter tells how her mother was treated in hospital 

"My mother [in her mid 80's] was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, which had spread to other organs. During a meeting with a consultant she said to us "We have no idea how advanced the cancer is, but due to the age of your mother we will not carry out any investigations or any treatment.  Thank you and goodbye".  If my mother had been younger, I feel they would have carried out a biopsy, or some kind of investigation.  It was almost as if she was too old for them to be bothering with. We were stunned, firstly by the news, then with the fact that we were going to be left to look after my mother with no support from the hospital."

The consultants were estimated to be around 40 to 55 years.

Interview for Managerial Position

23 year old male tells how his age was raised in a job interview

"In a job interview for a managerial position the question was raised of whether, at my low age compared to my peers, I would be respected enough to make decisions and lead a team. If I am capable of doing the job then age should not matter."

[This made me feel] "emotionally charged to prove that age would not matter."

The interviewers were estimate to be around 35 to 45 years of age. 

Patronising Treatment in Hospital

28 year old female tells how her 86 year old grandfather was patronised in hospital

"Whilst in hospital my grandfather was spoken to as if he was a child. He was told that he was using his razor incorrectly even though he had used it that way for years.  Despite the fact that he was a coherent educated man the nurse spoke to me about him as if he wasn't there and then talked to him as if he was a delinquent. She was really rude in her tone."

[This made me feel] "unhappy, embarrassed for him and cross."

The nurse was estimated to be 30 years of age.

PhD Interview

26 year old female experienced ageism in an interview for a PhD

"In an interview for a PhD place the Director of the research degree programme asked me whether my young age (23 at the time) could mean that I wasn't ready for a PhD. I was surprised at the question and felt patronised. I think age is irrelevant when it comes to doing a PhD - relevant factors are things like experience, qualifications and personal attributes."

The Director of research was estimated to be between 55 and 65 years old.